Citesc o carte incredibil de mişto, Sex at Dawn, Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha, ed.HarperCollins 2010, care prezintă felul în care relaţiile sexuale au evoluat (involuat) din cele mai vechi timpuri până în zilele noastre prin compararea mai multor culturi. Obiectivul lucrării este de a arăta că, nicio surpriză aici, suntem rezultatul culturilor în care trăim, adesea defectuase, şi că, în mod natural, oamenii nu sunt făcuţi să fie monogami. Până să revin cu o recenzie asupra lucrării, care nu face decât să prezinte fapte, fără să spună că e bine sau rău să trăieşti într-un fel sau în altul , vă ofer un capitol din carte care mi s-a părut excelent: How To Tell When A Man Loves a Woman (146-147)
„Written by Percy Sledge and first recorded in 1966, When a Man Loves a Woman hit a cultural nerve. The song shot to the top of both the Billboard Hot 100 and R&B charts. Another version, recorded 25 tears later by Michael Bolton, also went straight to the top of the charts and the song now sits at number 54 on Rolling Stone’s list of 500 greatest songs of all time. Nothing is more prominent than love and sex in Western media and When a Man Loves a Woman is an example of the message whispered in romantic ears throughout the world.
What does Mr.Sledge have to say about a man’s love for a woman? What are the signs of true masculine love? Copyright restrictions won’t allow us to quote the song’s lyric in full, but most readers know the words by heart anyway. To review, when a man loves a woman:
– He becomes obsessed and can’t think of anything else.
-He’ll exchange anything, even the world, for her company.
-He’s blind to any fault she may have, and will abandon even his closest friend if that friend tries to warn him about her.
-He’ll spend all his money trying to hold her attention.
-And last but not least, he’ll sleep in the rain if she tells him to.
We’d like to suggest an alternative title for this song: „When a Man Becomes Pathologically Obsessed and Sacrifices All Self-Respect and Dignity by Making a Complete Ass of Himself (and Losing the Woman Anyway Because Really, Who Wants a Boyfriend Who Sleeps Out in the Rain Because Someone Told Him To?)”.
Similarly, Every Breath You Take sits at a respectable number 84 on Rolling Stone’s list of all-time great songs. One of the biggest hits of 1983, the song topped the U.K. charts for a month and the U.S. charts for two. It won Song of the Year and The Police won that year’s Grammy for Best Pop Performance. To date, the song has logged in over 10 million registered air plays on radio stations around the world. Again, we’re assuming you know the words. But have you ever really listened to them? Though often held up as one of the great love songs of all time, „Every Breath You Take” is not about love at all.
Sung from the perspective of a man who’s been rejected by a woman who refuses to acknowledge that she „belongs” to him, he says he’s going to follow her every step, watch her every move, see who she spends the night with, and so on.
This a love song? It should be #1 on Billboard’s ranking „Crazed & Dangerous Stalker Songs”. Even Sting, who wrote the song after awakening in the middle of the night when the line „every breath you take/every move you make” bubbled up from his subconscious, didn’t realize until later „how sinister the song is”. He suggested in an interview that he may have been thinking of George Orwell’s 1984- a novel about surveillance and control-certainly not love.”